Recently I found myself distracted, confused, without focus, sleepy, and left wondering why I was so anxious about everything. After several days of prayer, speaking with my pastor and wife, and looking in the mirror, here’s what I found.
Anxiety is defined as: Distress or uneasiness of mind caused by fear of danger or misfortune: He felt anxiety about the possible loss of his job.
There’s one word in that example that says it all: POSSIBLE.
Possible leads to FEAR. Fear leads to ANXIETY.
What might happen. What could happen. What should happen. What shouldn’t happen. All are possibility statements.
I found I was dwelling on possibility statements, which lead to my anxiousness. To combat this, I started focusing on the facts and quit, as my pastor put it, “filling in the blanks”. I started focusing on fact questions. For example, What did happen. What did not happen. What will happen. What don’t we know.
I work with some of the country’s top researchers. Over time I have learned the key to science is in the question. Ask the right question, and then seek the answer. Fight the urge to predetermine the answer. Wait for the facts. By doing so, they avoid possibility statements and focus on fact statements. The same can be said in dealing with our fears.
Proverbs 12:25 states: Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.
Avoid feeding the Unknown and What-If monsters, the more they’re fed the bigger they get. Don’t allow anxiety to weigh you down. Share your feelings with your closest friend and pastor. Listen to what they have to say. Pray for guidance. Know that this is a season and it too shall pass. Most importantly, get up take a step and focus on the facts. You cannot control the situation, but you can control how you react it.
Are you going to keep feeding or slay the Monsters known as What-If and Unknown? It’s your choice.