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Sheri and I lead high school small groups for several years and really enjoyed our time. Serving young people is a challenge, their emotions are always at full speed, they fight, cry, laugh, sing, all in the span on minutes. I guess growing up is tough.

One of the most rewarding things we found in serving is witnessing these young people grow up. Over the past couple of years we’ve seen a lot of weddings and young people who grew up in the church together naturally come together. I think this is how God intended it. He wants our families to be families that bring him glory.

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My Own Worst Enemy…

January 5, 2012 — 1 Comment

As I went through my year end review of 2011, I realized just how much abundance God has given me and how I had fell into the trap of not acknowledging his blessings and instead was focusing on all the things he didn’t take care of.

I know what I need God to do, just ask me! That’s where I found myself in early December. Why hadn’t our house in FL been closed? Why can’t our son move to CA now? Why is it so hard for our daughter to make new friends? Why are we struggling to find the right church? Blah, blah, blah.

As I started praying to help me to understand my selfish sin, God reminded me of all things he had done for me this year: healed my broken back and concussion, allowed us to take vacation and enjoy his canvas we call earth, provided a new job and paid for our relocation, provided a new house in a great area just minutes from my work, given us financial support in ways we could have never imagined. The list went on and on. It far outweighed the stuff I thought at the moment as the most important.

So here I stand, blessed and realizing that God has a plan for everything. I have to constantly fight my pride which leads me down the self pity road that becomes my own worst enemy. Remembering what God has done in my past, helps carry me through the tough times and keeps me humble.

What blessing do you need to acknowledge?

1 Year…

December 30, 2011 — Leave a comment

A year ago I came close to dying. I learned much about friendship, service, letting others serve me, life and how much I mean to my family and they to me.

Since that time, I have witnessed God work in radical ways, seen my family come together, seen my family struggle with change, seen our company grow, seen men fight addiction, witnessed men step-up and lead, vacationed with friends for the first time, accepted a new job, moved across the country, sold a house, bought and sold cars, and most importantly allowed God to lead the way in my life.

As I reflect on this past year and remember (what I can) lying in bed last Christmas with a broken back/ribs/elbow and major concussion and realize what God has done since that time, I’m in shock. Why we he continues to care about me, is a mystery I will never solve. I’m no one, yet he still has a plan and obviously I have more to do. I have not wasted any time this year and am making the most out of things. I have not gotten it right every time, but I haven’t wasted anything.

As I start my annual review of My Life Manifesto, I realize I have a lot to do in 2012. God has called me to be more than I am and I have to get back in the game in some aspects of my life (more later on this). Right now, I’m focused on today and am in awe of how awesome God is.

It’s been a year…

No Control…

June 21, 2011 — 2 Comments

We have no control.

We can’t control other people – even our kids will do what they want.

We have no control over the external events in our lives – tornado’s, earthquakes, etc.

We have no control over other’s views and beliefs (see above)

So what do we control? We control what we believe, how we react, and what we think. From this comes everything. Accept that you cannot control anything else, and you’ll find life seems more controlled.

What do you need to stop trying to control?


Who do I love most? What’s most important to me? I use to answer these questions differently than I do now. I was immature (still am in many ways!) in my thinking. I loved my wife before my kids, and my kids before God. And this was a mistake and even worse a sin.

I did not properly lead my family because my priorities were wrong. My first love was wrong. It sounds right… Right? What’s wrong with loving your wife first? Seems like that should be number one. For example, we made decisions that I knew were wrong at the time, but in wanting to please my wife I went along with them and justified them in my mind – thus going against the best advice I ever received – and only to face the consequences later. Instead of doing the hard work and having the difficult discussions, I took the easy route and did what I thought was going to make things easy. Thus ignoring my leadership role in my marriage. I look back and see where I did this time and time again over the 22+ years of our marriage.

What should I have done and what do I do now? I have changed my priority and base my decisions on that priority. My first priority and love is to God and serving him. By making this change, I am able to discuss decisions with my wife that in the past I would not have discussed. We make many of the exact same decisions, but at the core of what has really changed is who I’m making the decisions for and who I am trying to please. By shifting my number one priority from my wife to God, I am able to look at things in a more objective manner and seeks God’s will in every major decision – then we discuss it and come to a consensus. This sometimes leads to tough discussions, but Sheri and I both agree that we make much better decisions now and more importantly for the right reasons.

I’d love to say that everything is perfect. It’s not, but it’s much better now that I am leading rather than following my family. My wife is and will always be my best friend and lover. But God is my first love.

Who is your first love? Does it need to change?

I hate when I get into a funk. All I seem to do is think. Think about my family, Sheri’s dogs (yes they are her dogs, not mine), my daughter, my son, our future, my career, my faith, my church, my community group, what God is calling me to do, the list goes on and on….

Being a results oriented guy, this is hard. I want to make things happen. Be on the field, making plays for the cause. I want to DO.

I get uncomfortable in these times. BUT…I’ve learned to embrace them because I know God’s molding me for the next thing. Every time I have had one of these period, God has done something HUGE in my life. Never what I expected or thought, but huge all the same. The problem is me being a control freak. I want to control what’s next. Hence I have to wait… Wait for God to do his thing.

To be honest. I’m afraid. I’m afraid of what he’s calling me to. I feel it. I know it in my heart, but my lizard brain is saying no way it’s too much. So I let the fear take hold. I wrestle it. I fight it. But most importantly I will not run from it or give into it. When the battle is over, I know God will use it for his purpose.

In the meantime, I think… I dream… I run… I pray… I go silent… waiting… waiting… waiting…

What are you waiting for?